A referral can move your resume ahead of many others, but only if you ask in a way that respects the other person’s time and reputation. A good request makes it easy for them to say yes and easy to say no.
Before you ask
- Find a specific opening you genuinely fit.
- Read the job description and match your skills honestly.
- Update your resume for that role and prepare a two-line summary of why you fit.
Who to ask
- Alumni from your college who work at the company
- Former colleagues, classmates and seniors
- People you have already interacted with in communities or events
Avoid sending the same message to strangers in bulk. Build a small connection first by reading their posts or asking one thoughtful question.
The message
Keep it under 100 words. Say who you are, the role, why you fit and attach or link your resume. State that you understand if they cannot refer you.
Example: Hi Rohan, I am a BCA graduate from Karad, and I saw that your team is hiring a junior developer. I have built two PHP projects and I am comfortable with SQL and Git. I have attached my resume and the job link. If you feel comfortable, I would be grateful for a referral or any advice on applying. I understand if that is not possible. Thank you for your time.
After they respond
- Thank them whatever the answer
- If they refer you, apply through the official process and share the application ID
- Update them about the outcome
Etiquette
- Never pay for a referral, and be careful with anyone who charges
- Do not pressure people
- Do not send messages at odd hours
Next steps
Pick three roles you fit, find one contact for each and send personalised messages this week.